Forgiveness, Gratitude and Misunderstanding. Do We Really Need Them?

Jodha does not forgive Akbar when he happens to make mistake of suspecting her in spite of his repeated attempts to seek forgiveness and yet her love and devotion for him did not change. In Dilip Kumar starrer movie “Shakti” when his son (Amitabh Bachhan) is kidnapped, son hears Dilip Kumar saying, it is not important to save him vis a vis his first child and that is his duty. Child misunderstood his father and it goes on to show how they both suffer due to child not being able to forgive his father.

In our more routine mundane life, we face such situations often where we are forgiven every now and then often as a compromise because we seem to believe that we have no choice but to live the relationship, hence we forgive.

Forgiveness is such case becomes a need which says that my virtues are not as important for my evolution as much as need to have the relationship. Hindus will argue that forgiveness is divine and so is gratitude as by doing so, you evolve and attain peace and come closer to enlightenment. When they say so, it turns out as if working towards enlightenment is the goal of the soul like a trainee aiming to be CEO of the company. It is an ambition imposed on the mental body of the person and a belief is created. A Belief which has its roots in a need to evolve, has conflict with any path of enlightenment or liberation, which is and should be beyond the need. The need as conceived by mental body and the fear that we might go against divine if we do not forgive and be in gratitude.

On the other hand, Jodha or Amitabh Bachaan in “Shakti” carries the power in their soul. They believe in relationship but in case of Jodha, not without her virtues and in case of “Shakti” not without protection, which from a child’s perspective, father is the only source. They feel empowered enough to carry on to live without relationship and take all risk on their life not caring if they will survive or not. They choose a path which we may judge wrong, full of pain or struggle and bitterness. But then whosoever sold the idea that happiness, peace, joy and surrender are supreme virtues of humanity, oversold the law of nature and forgot that the biggest virtue is to be authentic. Authentic to your pain over comfort and laziness and pretending to be spiritual by gratitude. There is no path which can lead to liberation or enlightenment if that is what one is pursuing if he/she is not authentic to its emotions of hurt. One must be willing to go through its pain and hurt till he/she finds that it transforms into something else. Such people who are authentic are beyond time and space and do not have any targets for this life time. Their only concern is to listen to their soul and stay with it even if it means few lifetimes and missing out many desires which a spiritual person seem to carry for search of divinity.

Who is Bigger: A Mystic or a Saint or Evolved Soul?

The one who hides the hurt and forgives to hold on to the relationship and yet suffer internal conflict between soul and need LIVE OR the one who chooses pain, aloneness and believe in his virtues even if that means death, disease? Is this a fight between emotions and consciousness or a fight between fears, need and virtue? Is there a fight or it is just matter of time and space and this conflict can be dissolved by understanding the principle of reincarnation and karma theory.

No matter what it is, it seems rather clear that brokers of spirituality have no reason and standing to judge people who do not succumb to the pressure of being ambitious to be enlightened and people who choose their virtue and take risk of losing relationships. They choose a lonely path listening to their spirit and they make a bigger mystic.

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  1. “Who is Bigger: A Mystic or a Saint or an evolved soul.?”…. you haven’t answered this question. By the way, I thought all these are synonyms..and there is no difference.

    The question you have raised in the second last para seems to be the biggest issue between two strong individuals, tied in a close relationship.

    Your article reminds me of a virtuous young lady about whom i heard when she abandoned her two small children and husband for a life in a well known ashram for service to humanity. I was in disbelief then like others around her who tried their best but couldn’t make her see reason…

    So what would you say for her.. she is authentic & will make a bigger mystic if she is persistent and singleminded on the path she has chosen.? Or should we applaud her for following her heart.? Or judge her for being too late in choosing an ascetic life.? Or maybe just leave her alone and believe that we have no right to judge her…!!!!

    You say the answer is in the principle of reincarnation and theory of karma. Kindly write about them… for us to know your interpretation of these two important theories/terms and they figure a lot in your blogs and in science of nvlife. . .

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