When we are constantly trying to please people and do not express our own self, we squeeze our space. Our expression is our truth. It could be just a small desire and truth does not have to something as exotic as who is God. Hence when we have a wish or desire or need like: new clothes; food; watching TV instead of studying and we feel constrained to express, it triggers self pity.
Stress is the most common phenomenon and even our children are also coming under stress. What is stress? Stress is a state where you feel you are handling more than you have the capacity to deal with. It means your stable system which you never had to think about, needs some more energies to keep itself stable.
I was depressed all the time. I felt lonely even with a whole crowd around me, craved for love from someone else and began hating everything about myself including the way I looked. I developed a huge inferiority and it began to show in my work, and as a designer, if there is no quality in your work: then you are nothing. I slowly became unproductive, destructive and angry.
Pain and bliss are inevitable and natural phenomenon and we are naturally gifted to experience these two extreme frequencies. When a child is hurt, then he/she experiences pain and cries out as it experiences pain. As child cries out, pain disappear and next moment child is ready to play again having no impression of fear of pain. Same toy, same kids and child is at same place doing same thing to experience Joy and bliss by being total in that moment of being playful. However that is not how we groom our children. We give them a belief that pain is not good and stay away from people/places/situations which give you pain. While as parents you are right to protect children, but mistake happens when we give a belief that you shall not cry when it pains… be strong… boys shall not cry…
I started my spiritual journey four years ago while attending a yoga workshop in Delhi. At that stage, I wasn’t necessarily searching for a deeper meaning in life, but was simply exploring exercise options which could serve as an alternative to my weekly football matches and frequent visits to the gym. Although yoga was the primary focus of the workshop, the facilitator introduced some basic meditation techniques into the three-day course and I was pleasantly surprised with the results.
Parenting has evolved over a period of time specially in last few decades with nuclear family concept due to urbanization and one could argue if it is for good. We are probably the only generation which is beginning to be obsessed with our children and we are far more non trusting in universe else, as said by Gibran, life was taken as a journey where one does experiences and passes on the wisdom and heritage to children and leaving their journey of life on universe.
I was going through a tough time due to professional and personal setbacks. Even though, I was strong on the outside, the walls inside me were breaking and it felt like I will soon lose my balance and fall. I got up each day with hope in my hopeless mind but by the end of the day, hopelessness conquered every ounce of hope. It wasn’t that I was doing miserable but was unappreciative of what I had and what I was doing. Not that I didn’t have the strength to deal with it but I surely wanted someone, something to make me believe in my strengths and pull me up when I go down.
I was always busy with daydreaming and illusion, visualizing the school days and college days. I was completely ignoring the present life. I believe this has been going on for about 20 years now. Addiction to pornography and masturbation from the past 12 to 15 years made me weak. It didn’t allow to focus on my present and I was finding it big struggle to keep up with my job and daily routine.
Naveen Varshneya is a serial entrepreneur, focusing on disruptive innovations which are transformative & simple, to empower the masses & at the same time being scalable in nature. He has immense experience & proficiency in conflict resolution using absolute objectivity & in a time bound manner.